The Gap

Friday night I took Katherine out.  Plans with her friend had fallen through, and she needed a change of scenery.  What do you do with an almost 16-year old who looks crestfallen?  Take her shopping.

Katherine has rather long legs, and her jeans from last year used to be full length, but now they look like high-waters.  Sorry, Kat.  I really should have taken you jeans shopping before now.

We don’t have much luck at Southpointe, but it was too late to trudge across town to the other mall.  I always have an excuse not to go there.

Anyway, we found her some LONG sizes at American Eagle.  I don’t love shopping there, but I found her a perfect pair of jeans on the clearance rack for 19.99.  A lot of jean for little money.

I wanted to browse at The Gap before heading home.  They are having 40% off their clearance items, so I thought it was worth it.  I found a few pairs of pants, and went to try them on with my trusty assistant, Rebecca.

We giggled through the 3 pairs, which fit nice, but had a HUGE GAP in the back.  What is wrong with these pants?  Are they supposed to fit this way?  I have enough room to stick a water bottle back there.  After Rebecca finished up putting my discarded pants back on hangers, I told her they call this store THE GAP because of their gappy pants.  She thought that was a good one.

Should I write The Gap’s corporate office with new marketing ideas?  Instead of showing photos of tooth-pick models only from the front, they could get a side view to show the gap in the back.  They could insert trendy water bottles or coffee carafes back there to show how handy that gap can be.  Maybe I should patent my idea, first.  What if  The Gap steals it, and I don’t get any credit?

When I was looking at all those jean models, I had a tremendous urge to cook.  I’ve been having these urges lately, when Ashley brings her starving college friend(s) over.  I just want to feed them, and send more food home with them.  I can’t stop myself.  I’m turning into an Italian grandmother.

At bedtime, Rebecca hugged me and whispered, “Mom, I can’t wait until tomorrow when I can have pop-tarts.”  We only get sugary breakfasts on Saturday, and Rebecca looks forward to her weekly pop tart almost as much as her mama.

Katherine said good night, and told me shopping with me was just as much fun as hanging out with her friend.  Aw, shucks.  Buying a pair of jeans that fit goes a long way.

P.S.  My camera is getting fixed.  It had a black, fuzzy spot on the pictures.  I will have to write instead of relying on photo props.  Sigh.

Then and Now

Note:  I wrote this last spring, and decided to resurrect it from the “unpublished” file.

Is that candy called “Then and Now” or “Now and Later”?  Horrible name.  Makes me think of someone chewing their cud.

I have been thinking a lot about what relationships between males and females look like at the beginning, and in the middle.  My daughter is at the beginning.  Wow.  So intense.  So sweet.  So many compliments.  So many smiles, sighs, and perhaps a bit of floating.

I am not in the beginning, thank the Lord.  Marcus and I occasionally gaze at each other over our morning cup of coffee, and say, “Boy, are we  glad we’re not dating anymore.”

What attracted me to Marcus way back when?  Hmmm.  First of all, he was Bad News.  I just told Ash that James Franco looked like Bad News.   Ashley was disappointed we sent Flyboys back to Netflix without getting to see it.  I told her that from what I could tell, Hollywood just wanted to find another film for James Franco after Spiderman.  Just a  2-hour James Franco Gratuitous Display.  Why bother with a script?  Bad News looks good from a distance, but marrying Bad News?

Oh, yes.  Marcus was also Bad News.  He had icy blue eyes, long wavy hair, no concept of time, and he was cute.  In my defense and his, I also remember something different about him.  A diamond-in-the-rough glimmer.  He talked about God, forgiveness and things that really touched me at a deep level.  Have mercy.  Did I mention how cute he was?

Why do I love Marcus now, after 17 years?  Hmmmm.  First of all, he isn’t Bad News anymore.  He takes the hit for me everyday.  I don’t mean that he takes a bullet.  But he gets up, goes to work, deals with anal customers (thank you for the business!), drops plywood on his toe, fixes broken equipment, and chats with elderly ladies who may need a chair glued, but also just want to talk with such a “nice, young man.”  That is why he sometimes comes home with recipes and canned preserves.  Those ladies probably think I starve him.  For the record, I do feed him.

He loves our girls.  And they know it.

He reaches for my hand when we walk somewhere, after all this time.

A few years ago, when I went out to the shop in a fragile state, and Marcus tried to objectively “solve” my problem, I told him I didn’t want my problem solved.  I wanted a hug.  That’s it.  Marcus has never forgotten that advice.  He hugs first, listens, and only offers advice in certain situations.  Most of the  time a hug takes care of it.  I’m glad I told him this.  Sometimes there is a queue of females by the shop door waiting for their hugs.  They don’t want advice, either.

I see his walk with God strengthening.  He has spiritual insights that I don’t have.  We complement one another, which can be frustrating, but not when God teaches you different facets of Himself from the much different person He has joined you with.

He understands what I’m going through, even when I don’t tell him.  A couple days ago I was doing lawn therapy, and not holding up very well.   Ashley came to ask me what was wrong, then Marcus appeared and gave Ash the point-by-point explanation of what was upsetting me.  I almost fell over.  I was too shocked to be upset anymore, and realized I don’t give him enough credit.

That leads me to the last reason love is so sweet after the years.  Marcus does fully understand me, yet has chosen to stay with me.  He has accepted my faults, like backseat driving.  Not only that, but he chooses to go on vacation with me even though my foot almost goes through the floorboards.  That’s commitment,  and going the extra mile.

I remember before our church plant, Pastor Tobey was teaching Sunday school.  He said heaven is a place where we will be fully known by our Savior, and fully accepted.  That is the longing in our hearts.   A lasting, God-focused marriage gives us a glimpse of what this looks like.

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Thanks, Marcus.

Black Hills: “All the Rest” Edition

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Sylvan Lake was my favorite spot in the Black Hills.  Absolutely gorgeous.  Because we camped in Custer State Park, and it took forever to travel on Needles Highway, we only made it to Sylvan Lake twice.  It was worth every hairpin turn.

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Katherine, Grandma and I hiked around the lake while everyone else stayed behind to rest and wade in the water.  We discovered a waterfall, steps cut into the stone, and several lookouts to drink in.

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My younger kids just love to get their feet wet.

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We admired the Cathedral Spires from afar, and Marcus found a trail in them on the trail map.  The brochure said the hike was “strenuous.”  I wasn’t sure about this level of hike with Grandma and all the kiddos, but Marcus was.

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Maddie, Ashley and I made it to the end first.  I suppose it was a bit strenuous, based on the moans I heard on the way up.  But it was all worth it.  Side note:  Maddie’s magnificent scrapes came from running her scooter into a camper, not the hike.

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Rebecca found so many cool rocks on the hike, her pockets were full of treasure.  Her pants were falling down by the end.  Elastic has its merits, but holding up pockets of rocks isn’t one of them.

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The wildflowers were noteworthy, and reminded me of foliage in the Rockies.

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Streams and ferns abounded.  Notice Rebecca’s healthy, red cheeks?

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Finally, the Needles Highway’s namesake:  The Needle.  See the hole where you stick your thread?  The first time we drove through here, it was so congested we couldn’t even stop to check in out.  So we went back.

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If your kids get whiny on the trip, which is a given, you can put them in “time out” under the needle.  Handy.

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Wind Cave was alright for a cave, but I remember Jewel Cave being more majestic on our previous trip.

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When we were in Fort Robinson, the camp host told us to stop at the Purple Pie Palace in Custer.  It wasn’t too hard to find.

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When you stop in for pie and ice cream, take a moment to capture your likeness with the purple pig.  Then your trip will be complete.

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Black Hills – Mount Rushmore Edition

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You can’t forget Mount Rushmore!  That would be sacrilegious.  Or not.  But everyone needs to see it once.  I’ve seen it twice, but the first time doesn’t count because my kids were little and all I remember is exhaustion.  And Maddie’s shoulder going out of joint.  Eeeww.

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When you look at a map, everything seems pretty close.  But these are mountain roads.  There is barely room for 2 cars to pass one another, especially if one is a Suburban.  You spend a day driving to Mount Rushmore, tooling around, and driving back.

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The view from Needles Highway is fantastic, but don’t expect to drive over 35 miles per hour.

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When you get to Mount Rushmore, you can pose your kids to look like the presidents.

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Or you can take super-close up shots of the faces while you hike around.

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I like the pine trees in this one – they look like Teddy’s mutton chops.

On the hike you also go through Borglum’s studio, and hear how he created Mount Rushmore.  It is quite an engineering feat.  The studio includes the scaled model on which he based his sculpture.  Marcus especially liked this part.  The talk made me squint my eyes, which is my reaction to an idea that forces my mind to think spatially.  Painful.  The only part I remember is that Borglum used Egyptian pyramid engineering techniques.  Ask Marcus about the rest, if you have enough time.

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If Mount Rushmore isn’t enough sculpture for you, head over to the Crazy Horse Memorial.  We didn’t drive in, in part because we felt the $30 fee was exorbitant.  Maddie recorded history in the making right out the Suburban window while driving by at 60 miles per hour.

When you get home from your trip, you can compare your current pictures to the ones you took 11 years ago, or however long it has been.

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Black Hills – Wildlife Edition

Kat posted pictures of our Black Hills vacation on her BRAND NEW FACEBOOK account yesterday, and it reminded me that I was really going to do that here eventually.   Maybe.

As far as I can tell, they are called the Black Hills because they are covered in dark evergreens, which makes them look “black” from a distance.  No verification on that.  Just my observation.  Marcus seconded the motion.

I took trillions of pictures, and this will either turn out to be the longest post in history, or I’ll skip a lot, or do installments.  Let’s see…

This was a great vacation.  Here is why:

1.  Wildlife.  Buffalo, which are really bison, but we like “tatonka.”  They were everywhere.

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Even though the sign said:

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“BUFFALO ARE DANGEROUS – DO NOT APPROACH.”

They let them wander all over – even in our campsite.  I guess it is only dangerous if we approach buffalo, not if they approach us.  Even though they can apparently accelerate to 30 miles per hour in no time.  I took this picture while lying low in the camper.

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We found this big boy munching grass in a field.  He was really breathtaking.

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We also saw a trillion (this is my new number word, since I hear it all the time associated with national health care) prairie dogs, lotsa deer, and wild donkeys.  I refuse to post pictures of prairie dogs, even though the younger contingent ooo’d and ahhh’d over them excessively.

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I forgot to take a picture of  the sign that commanded people not to feed the animals.  You know – they get used to getting fed, then in the winter they kick the bucket when no tourists are there to feed them pb & j’s.  Most people didn’t bother reading the sign before feeding these guys their second breakfasts.

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I wasn’t sure where to put Jake, the little neighbor in our campsite.  After formal deliberation, I definitely decided he belonged under “wildlife.”  He obtained a plastic knife from the Crazy Horse gift shop, and proceeded to terrorize the girls with it.  Especially Ashley.

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He had the best red rubber fireman boots on.  If I ever have a grandson, I’m buying him some boots just like them.

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Yesterday morning I woke to a fog.  Not just in my head, but outside, too.  As the sun slowly started burning through the haze, I saw spider webs all over the yard.  For a moment (only briefly, mind you) I thought we were having a spider invasion.  Then I realized water droplets had just revealed what had been there all along.

Earlier I had told my husband what a BIG day I had.  Everything needed done.  When he looked for me later, he found me standing in a pine tree, meditating on how close I could get my camera lens to the web without getting it sticky.  I had forgotten about that big “to do” list in the house.  Ahhhh.  Picture therapy on a cool Monday morning.  I highly recommend it.

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This about sums it up.

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I had a sinking feeling 2 weeks ago I had nothing to show for the whole summer.  Remedy?  Paint.  Drastic, I know.  But now it is blatantly obvious I did do something this summer.

Restoration Hardware calls this color “Sea Green.”  No way.  One of my kids, whose name escapes me, called it “Robin’s Egg Blue.”  Much better description.  Blue in some light, and green when it feels like it.

Marcus, the Supreme Doubter of my Color Choices, just mentioned that this color is growing on him.  I knew it would.

It was also salsa week.  Maddie picked extra jalapenos, and I threw them all in.  Steamy.

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Happy birthday, Marcus.  We’re to the point we’ve known each other over half our lives.  They say old couples start looking alike.  Will my legs get longer?  Will you grow lots of bushy hair?  Probably not.  But I’m sticking around just to make sure.

I love ya’ awful, honey.

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